Full Moon in Libra - Relationship Upgrade
Greetings! Here is your Moon Message for the Full Moon in Libra.
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This Moon Message includes:
Info about the full moon energies
How the quality of your relationship with yourself shapes the quality of your relationships with other people
What I've learned from my journey about life purpose and being who you are
Tapping in to Aries energy to boldly pursue your desires and take up space in your own life
Nurturing self-acceptance and welcoming all parts of us, not just those that are culturally acceptable
Uprooting Libra shadow patterns of suppressed desires, people pleasing and co-dependence, and their origins in cultural and trauma-related conditioning
Reclaiming our agency in relationships, learning to love ourselves and receive love
Reflections on my own relationship journey and the story of how I transformed my pattern of giving my power away
My current experience of being in a healthy power couple relationship, what it looks like and what it took to get here
Healthy relationships have space for you to be honest about your wants and needs (even if those can't be met in the relationship)
Holding space for change and growth within ourselves, our desires, and our relationships
Tapping into energy for networking and community building, speaking desires with confidence and opening to receive what you have requested
Featuring original music by Starry Eyes
Full Moon in Libra - March 28, 2021 at 2:48 pm EDT:
Moon at 8º Libra
Sun, Venus and Chiron at 8º Aries
Mars conjunct North Node at 12-14º Gemini, trine Saturn at 11º Aquarius
Mercury conjunct Neptune at 19-21º Pisces
Text Transcript:
Greetings! I'm Stephanie Elizabeth Briggs, the creator of Heart Blossom where I offer soul guidance to a global community of highly-sensitive healers, artists and visionaries. This is your Moon Message for the Full Moon in Libra, Sunday March 28, 2021 at 2:48 pm US Eastern time. This is a powerful full moon for healing on many levels in relationship to yourself, to your desires, and to other people in your life.
At this full moon we have this powerful clustering happening with the Sun, Venus and CHIron all conjunct, all fuseD here at eight degrees of Aries, bringing this potent fire of transformation to our healing journey. And then opposite this cluster we have the moon at eight degrees of Libra, bringing a vision for our highest ideals in relationships.
And all of this of course very much has to do with your relationship with yourself. As I've shared before the way that we relate with ourself has such an impact on the relationships that we have with other people. And it's really simple in some ways because how we feel about ourself, how much we're able to accept ourself or not, impacts how we're able to show up as we engage with and relate with other people.
My understanding at this time is just to share with you that your life purpose is really just to be you. This is what I've come to understand and embrace on my own journey, which has been ongoing for in particular the last decade of awakening to my soul, to my magic, to more dimensions of who I am, which is an ongoing process. It's still happening and it will be continuing… But what I've realized is that ultimately it's about being who I am, uncovering who I am, in every moment so that I can live from that place.
So when we're dealing here with Aries, this has to do with our very existence as humans here on earth. It's really the energy of spring— Western astrology is based on the seasonal cycles of the northern hemisphere. So with Aries we have this spring energy of getting things started. There's a boldness, an impulse and a motivation to go after your life, to go after what it is that you want.
And so the invitation with this moment of healing in particular is to really look at how much we're willing to take up space in our own life with ourself. How much of us are we able to accept and allow to exist, even just in our own awareness?
So many of us have taken on conditioning or judgments or all these ideas about who we are who we're supposed to be and what parts of us are okay or acceptable to express and act on. Especially for those of us who are healers as well as just being highly sensitive people, oftentimes we are conditioned into these patterns of codependence and taking care of other people and just really giving so much of ourselves.
And in ways like we kind of tend to get into more of that moon in libra side and its less empowered expression of just mirroring other people at the expense of ourselves, to keep the peace, to maintain a sense of comfort, whether for ourselves and/or for the other people that we're relating to.
First what I want to say is that if we've been doing this it's usually something you've been culturally conditioned into and oftentimes as part of that this is what helps us to feel safe. And if we have experienced abuse, or neglect, especially like growing up, this is probably something that we learned in order to best survive and navigate those circumstances.
And so whatever patterns we notice we're in, like if we notice that it's hard to take up space, it's hard to really own our desires in relationships. If we feel like we're always in unequal relationships, imbalanced, where we're just giving and giving and giving, realize that you are the one who is remaining in this relationship.
It's not to say that you're to blame for any harm that you're experiencing, it's not your fault when other people cause you harm or cause you pain. AND as an adult, you have agency.
So I've been reflecting on this personally, as I've been coming up on the seven year anniversary of me actually getting a divorce. So I got married at age 25. And it feels like a lifetime ago. But it just ended up not really being a very happy relationship for me. And ultimately, it wasn't aligned with who I wanted to be what I wanted to experience and what I cared about in my life.
And I just didn't realize that at first, because I hadn't explored those things for myself, I was just going along in that pathway of like, what I thought other people wanted, or what would make other people like me.
It's okay if you want to be liked. It's okay if you want to be accepted, and even validated by people in your life. I just want to go ahead and say that it's okay if you want validation. People who love you and support you will probably offer you some of that validation naturally. Or if they don't, they might be open to giving that to you if you would ask for it.
But also you can work on validating yourself. So it doesn't have to be an either/or.
There's a concept that goes around a lot in personal development of, you have to love yourself before anyone else can love you. And I don't fully believe that, I think that it can be both/and. We can be learning to love ourselves while also learning and growing in our capacity to receive love from other people.
And so for me, again, as I've been reflecting on my own journey over these last seven years since I moved out of that relationship, and then really went into a seven year pattern of healing my relationships and my relationship patterns, in particular with romantic partners.
I had a lot of really toxic, unhealthy, unsustainable and harmful patterns in my relationships. And it's not to say that I've fixed all that and everything's totally perfect all the time. Definitely not, but I've certainly moved through a period and got to a different level, a different energy to my relationships now.
So my old pattern that was going on in my marriage, and then also showed up with even greater intensity in relationships that came in the years after that, you know, was really giving my power away.
I actually have my Sun in Libra. So I when I speak of these unhealthy Libra dynamics and speaking from personal experience, I know all the shadows of Libra. Because Libra values beauty and harmony and peace and you know, all the pleasantries, very diplomatic. So it's just important to also make sure that there's integrity in that.
So for me, in my old relationship pattern, I didn't really have integrity, I actually was doing a lot of performance and suppressing things, things that I needed and wanted or things that I was upset about, or things that I was excited about, like anything that felt like it wasn't welcome, what felt like I was gonna get criticized or rejected, I would just like hold that back.
And, you know, it really is not a sustainable pattern and in this I would also tend to be drawn to partners who, I didn't think of it like this at the time, but now I realize, like I had almost held that they were like a project and I was gonna help them realize how awesome they were and you know, make their life better.
But that's not what they wanted and so that was actually really kind of messed up on my part. And it also resulted in me funneling so much of my energy and my attention to this other person and the relationship and it was just like a downward spiral and ultimately things really escalated to a place of crisis that I actually went through with one partner. It was significant enough for me that that was my final wake up call: “I need to make a serious change here.”
So that's the time when I finally decided to commit to changing my relationship patterns and ultimately it took several years of me trying out things and every time I realized I was in the pattern again I had to say “no” and I had to extricate myself from the pattern.
I had to do it over and over and over and over, and it was not easy or fun. It was really hard and disappointing sometimes and frustrating. I kept wondering if I was ever going to actually be able to have a relationship that could be healthy.
I'm happy to say that I did finally get there. My current relationship is awesome and amazing. I consider us to be a power couple which is something that I was always drawn to actually as a concept in prior times in my life. I didn't even really know what that was about but it just seemed appealing to me.
We're actually both trauma survivors so on paper this really would not work at all and we've definitely been through some tough times earlier in our relationship and have needed to be really patient and get support along the way. And also we were friends for several years even though we were definitely always attracted. But I think what's been different in this scenario is that we both have a commitment to our individual healing journeys and we both are always working on ourselves.
And also we were able to be honest with each other and that's ultimately one of my number one things for how I've been able to shift my relationship patterns. Deciding to be more and more honest about where I'm at, what I want, what I need.
And it's really scary sometimes but what I found is that a lot of times when I actually express that, I can get what I want and need. And also if I express it and I can't get it then I have that information to decide what do I want to do?
If i'm with a partner who can't even hear my needs or wants then ultimately that's not a partnership that's sustainable for me, and so that was part of my decision that I made.
Where I'm at now is I have this partnership that feels like a power couple. We have mutual support and respect and inspire each other to be our best selves, healing and growing and living with integrity. We also share a lot of values and priorities and we're able to actually heal together as we can co-regulate our nervous systems together.
Something that I've really learned a lot from my partner is just about moving through life as a team, like we have each other's back and we're here to help each other. And it's mutual so there's no need to feel transactional or keep score or like you're indebted or you've given so much you're not getting anything back. It just sustains and it just works.
I really believe in the power of our ability to heal and grow. We can keep changing. Over time our relationships change, our desires change.
I had a friend, who I actually am not really friends with anymore, but one thing she said to me once was that she chose to hold what she loves with an open hand. And I always thought that was so profound because we tend to grip and cling to the things that we love.
But sometimes we think that we want something and then we get it and realize it's not even what we want; it's not for us. So that's another thing I want to just remind you is that it's okay. You don't have to stick with something just because you thought you wanted it.
If relationships are transitioning, if relationships are ending, you may need to grieve the loss but just trust it. Some relationships are meant to be long term, others are short term. Let them be what they are.
When it comes to you remember that who you are is an unfolding journey. You are one and you're many. And there is no “one true real” you. The real you is the whole you—all of the parts and expressions and phases and seasons of your life.
We do have a lot of energy right now for moving forward into this next season, into this next chapter. We have Mars in Gemini, it's transiting with the north node in Gemini, and also in a trine to Saturn in Aquarius. So there's lots of energy here and motivation to grow and evolve. And also, you know, to network to communicate and to share ideas and support in community. And really again, building community that will be here to support us in the long term in a sustainable way.
Also, there's energy to speak your desires, and taking inspiration from the energy of Aries, speaking your desires with confidence. Venus is in Aries right now — Venus in Aries goes for what they want. So you can ask for what you want, and then open to receive what you have requested.
And notice in that process, if that feels scary, or it feels hard, there might be something to explore there. What is it that you're worried about, what might happen if you give voice to this? What might happen if you give voice to this, and you don't get what you asked for? Then what?
With all of this, it's just an opportunity for pruning any old overgrown brush that might be in the way, so that you can clear that out to make space for these new seedlings to grow in your life.
Trust your process of being and becoming human. You're an intrepid soul who has taken birth here on Earth. It's pretty bold and badass, if you ask me!
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Until next time, wishing you all the best on your journey!
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